Christmas usually fills homes with celebrations, but this year carried a bittersweet tone for October, the wife of Kansas City Chiefs legend Tony Gonzalez. After more than a decade together, Tony and October have built a blended family. The couple is now parents to two daughters, a son, and Nikko, who is Tony’s eldest son from a previous relationship. But recently, October revealed that this holiday season marked a turning point in her family life.

In her recent Instagram post shared on Christmas, Tony Gonzalez’s wife opened up about the emotional challenge many parents face as their children grow older. While one of her kids has already moved out, October just announced that her oldest daughter, Malia, is now preparing to do the same as she steps into adulthood.

“I’ve already lost one, and this Christmas was my oldest daughter’s last before becoming an “official” adult,” October wrote in the caption of her recent Instagram post. “Empty nesting is inevitable for any parent but it doesn’t make it any easier to bear. #teawithtobie.”

So, as the Gonzalez household grows quieter with children starting independent lives, October is facing empty nesting. And October just decided to open up about it online through her ‘Tea with Tobie’ segment. While holding a cup of tea and sitting casually on a couch at home, October then admitted that the thought of her teenagers leaving has been overwhelming.

“Today we are discussing empty nesting,” October said in the video with her post. “I have teenagers, and they are on the cusp of leaving me. And I find myself unwell on a daily basis. I don’t know about you guys, but I find myself sitting and looking at old photos, rolling back into oblivion, remembering that they’re gonna be gone in less than five minutes. So, I’m terrified, I’m sad. I’m like anticipating loneliness, the quietness around my house, and I’m freaking out.”

She further explained that her entire life has revolved around her kids. She has been part of every detail of their lives in the Gonzalez household. So, October admitted she fears the day when there are no lunches to make and no schedules to manage. Despite being a successful television personality and philanthropist, October now questioned what her purpose in life might feel like once her kids leave for college. But she also noted that her kids have already been preparing her for empty nesting.

“I gotta admit, like as my kids have gotten older, they’ve got to be so rude and quite honestly mean,” October said. “My son is constantly reminding me that he’s an independent 45-year-old man because of his own bills, but obviously, is it true? My daughter won’t hug me. Don’t give me any attention. Won’t talk to me about her life, so I feel like preparing us to be like ‘All right, you know I’m actually ready for you to go, actually don’t let the door hit you.’”

Still, Tony Gonzalez’s wife admitted she fears her kids being on their own in college with no curfews or guardrails and just freedom. At the same time, October also felt excitement for them, remembering what it was like to be their age and feel like the world was wide open. But while entering the empty-nesting phase, she also could not help but worry about her relationship with Tony Gonzalez.

Tony Gonzalez’s wife opens up about concerns regarding the future of her relationship

In 2007, Tony Gonzalez and October had a commitment ceremony. After that, the couple has been together for more than 16 years now, as they cherish their bond. But October has just admitted to some concerns in her relationship with Tony as their kids move out. In the video shared with her recent Instagram post, October further pointed out that many couples struggle during this stage of life, and some even drift apart.

“You know, a lot of divorce happens in empty nesting because it’s like you don’t even know each other anymore. So, that’s why I think Tony and I make it very, very much a priority to spend time together on vacations together to make sure that we are still liking each other and still having fun things to do in good conversations.” 

Interestingly, October made it clear she is happy to embrace the empty-nesting phase rather than start over as a new mom. And she even shared something positive that Tony has promised her to look forward to. 

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Tony told his wife that once their daughter, Malia, and then their son, River, leave for college, she could turn their daughter’s room into a glam room. October admitted that’s the only thing that’s keeping her alive with excitement. But October is also excited about the other things that come with kids growing up, like becoming a grandparent.

“I think anybody that’s in the phase that I’m in just needs to take a deep breath to get through. The good is coming. We’re gonna be grandparents one day. I’m actually looking forward to that… really eases the anxiety for me when I think about what they have to look forward to and not think about myself. I have to think about them and not myself.”

Moreover, as Tony Gonzalez continues his work as a football analyst, his wife is preparing to begin a new chapter of life with him. It won’t be easy, but it could be meaningful in ways that October has only begun to discover.