There was a time when Hailee Steinfeld said, “My anxiety is through the roof,” the way most people do—offhandedly, like an emoji in sentence form. It was shorthand for stress, for chaos, for having too many tabs open in her brain. But in a recent issue of Beau Society, her personal newsletter, the actress and singer admitted something that felt both simple and striking: she didn’t actually know what anxiety was back then. Not really. It wasn’t until adulthood that she started to feel the distinction between stress, overwhelm, and actual anxiety. The kind that hums underneath even the quiet moments, that doesn’t disappear just because your schedule clears up. It was that realization, she said, that finally allowed her to address it. Not fix it overnight. But face it, name it, and manage it.

It was in the 30th issue of Beau Society that Hailee Steinfeld first opened up about her mental health, specifically, her experience with anxiety and the small, practical habits that helped her manage it. That moment marked a quiet shift: not just in the tone of her newsletter, but in how she chose to engage with her audience. Now, several issues later, she’s returned to the subject. This time, the focus has shifted slightly—from anxiety to its close cousin, stress, and the subtle, often-overlooked ways it shows up in everyday life.

In the latest issue of Beau Society, Hailee shared that she had a particularly stressful week, one where the feeling surfaced more than once. Instead of brushing it off, she addressed it directly. “If you’re stressed, you’re stressed,” she wrote. “That’s okay.” She emphasized that stress is temporary, and that reminding yourself of its impermanence can make a difference. “Sometimes, just acknowledging the transient nature of emotions helps them pass,” she said. When it comes to navigating a difficult or dramatic moment, her approach is simple. “It’s a moment, but then it’s over, and life keeps right on going.” The key, she says, is learning to move on once that moment passes. Holding on only ends up affecting you more than it needs to.

Considering the timing of her newsletter, which speaks about stress, it makes sense. It is now being rumored that Josh Allen and Hailee will be getting married by the end of this month. Imagine the amount of wedding planning she will have to do. If you thought that’s all, hold on. It’s not just that, it’s also the release of her new blockbuster movie ‘Sinners’, co-starring with Michael B Jordan.

The release of the movie, which has grossed $314 million as of now, has given her quite a lot of public attention. The promotions, red carpets, interviews, and the media constantly following her everywhere she goes, watching everything that she does, would’ve surely added to the stress. After all, who would like to be chased by cameras even while doing a small grocery run?

Hailee, despite being a huge star, has tried to stay as grounded as possible. One way she does this is through her newsletter, where she answers her fans’ questions or personal problems that they send. One such question was surrounding a breakup. No, it’s the type of breakup that you think. This type of breakup is often more complex and messier than the ones we know about.

Hailee Steinfeld shares important life advice

Hailee Steinfeld is not your average, 9-to-5 sort of celebrity, and she has shown it multiple times. Even with the Beau Society newsletter, she has found a way to connect with her fans on a much real sense. Writing to them and talking about the problems they might be facing. Almost as if she were an elder sister to us, ready to share the wisdom that she had gained from experiences throughout her lifetime.

In issue #17 of her newsletter, Hailee wrote back to a fan who had written to her about a breakup with her best friend. The response from Hailee was real, candid, and honestly refreshing. Addressing the fan’s issue, she wrote, “I’m sorry,͏ those͏ are neve͏r easy. Friendships are special and precious and can be tricky because, like any relationship, they change and evolve, and sometimes you drift apart. That’s okay!” “Also,͏ t͏rust that you’ll ha͏ve͏ ma͏ny best f͏r͏ie͏nds throu͏gh͏out͏ yo͏ur͏ ͏life. May͏be you’͏re about to meet your next one,” Hailee further wrote about the topic, acknowledging the harsh truth of life. She also recommended Issa Rae and Michelle Obama’s podcasts, if the fan needed help moving on and dealing with this grief.

It almost feels like Hailee has achieved the goal with which she started off her newsletter. The goal of being real with her fans and talking with them, not to them. At the same time, creating a safe space for “anything and everything important to us,  from the silly to the serious.”